speed dating events in harrisburg pa - Invalidating children39s feelings
In highly charged moments validation can be so crucial and clarifying.
Sometimes a conflict can be averted by simply validating what your spouse has said.
It's hard to recognize an invalidator, because a truly good one can bypass the scrutiny of your logical mind, and you find yourself feeling bad without knowing why.
The invalidator is underhanded, and the person being invalidated is often unsuspecting except for knowing that he or she feels bad. Whether you are aware of it or not, you probably have. The invalidator uses various suppressive mechanisms to chop away at your self-esteem.
And they are always striving for positions of power because they have an obsessive need to control people and events.
The more clever invalidators don't use their powers until it's absolutely necessary.
Be aware that giving validation is difficult for those who are deeply wounded, self-absorbed and/or self-protective.